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The last seven days have gone by in a blur and my parenting skills have been poor to say the least. This time last week we were offered the opportunity to move to a bigger and busier pub and had to make the decision pretty quickly. The time frames were tiny and would have been a huge upheaval for all the family so as you can imagine their was an awful lot of soul searching. Cue the bad parenting due to all our focus on what should we do. The milk went off, the bread went mouldy, we didn’t send son to nursery as there was nothing for his packed lunch and we had a succession of babysitters over the five days we tried to work out what to do. Here is me trying to blog about healthy families and the other half caved in to the golden arches on one of his stints with our son! The crazy thing is the root of all this poor parenting was trying to make the right decision for our son’s future and us as family. Oh the irony of it all….
After all the umming and ahhing, number crunching and possible scenarios we have decided to stay put. We love our life as it is even though it can be a hard slog, but then what isn’t in this life? We have decided to focus and develop what we have rather than stretching ourselves and our time even more than we do already. Since we said no, our fridge is packed with vegetables again, dinner times have seen home cooked food back on the menu and the lunch box is back up to standard again. Our son visited his new school on Monday and my mum gave me a lecture on the importance of him having clean fingernails. If only she knew about the mouldy bread.
Ever since I discovered the world of blogging and my few feeble attempts at it in the past I have looked each year at Brit Mums Live and desperately wanted to go. However there was always something stopping me or I made an excuse. This year with less than a week to go I have thought sod it and bought a ticket, booked my accommodation and sorted out the childcare (husband and son!) A year ago the thought of going away on my own would have filled me with dread, since G was born I have never left him for a night with his Dad on their own, this is a big milestone for me.
I have joined the Facebook group for newbies where everyone seems so friendly and supportive so I am feeling a little less nervous and lots of people seem to be anxious about getting around London which is at least one thing I know I can do ok. It is amazing how much positivity and support there is out there in the blogosphere. People we have never met in person yet feel we know through their candid writing and putting themselves out there are able to be supportive and encouraging in a way some people we know really well just don’t seem to be able to do. (This is no criticism of my fantastic friends and family.)
Lots of people liken going to BritMums Live for the first time as similar to starting school. Although I am nervous it is also really exciting to be starting a new journey. How often in life do we get the chance to do something completely new and fresh? It is like when we buy a new notebook for all our ideas, the clean page just getting ready to be filled up is always something I find very exciting. Although I have been here since February it is only now that I am really inspired to keep going with it and learn from people who have kept going and achieved success and fulfilment from their own blogs. I will keep you posted about how I get on and if you follow me on Twitter @domsimpson I am sure I will be tweeting through the couple of days.
Thanks for dropping by Dominique x
Welcome to my world! Playing at being a parent is often how I feel. Am I doing this or that right? Do I really have any ideas about what I am trying to do? Am I creating huge problems for my child later in life? These and numerous more worries I could list haunt me daily and looking at the large number of parenting magazines, blogs, books and programmes out there it would seem I am not alone.
Also with being a parent I find the balance between being the strong adult who is the moral compass, shepherding to school or nursery, running a busy household and job means I often forget to be my child’s friend. the parent who plays and has fun with their child, the one I wanted to be when I was pregnant for the first time with all the dreams and aspirations that soon disappear after a run of sleepless nights, a tight budget with only one of you earning a wage to start with and just trying to get dressed and brush your teeth before midday.
If any of this sounds familiar then I hope you will enjoy visiting me here. I am Dominique and have been a teacher for the last 15 years, specialising in Early Years education since 2001. Since having our son 3 years ago I have devoured parenting manuals, websites, in fact anything about parenting as not only does it fascinate me, I am paranoid about messing the biggest job of my life up! If any of this sounds familiar to you I hope we will be friends……………………